What does it take to meet the right one?

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I've been looking for quite some time now. I see lots of other people in relationships -- some happy, some not -- and I always wonder how they all found someone. Perhaps I'm too picky.

Any tips out there on attracting the "right one"?

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I think the best thing a person can do is get involved in fun activities where there are other people you can meet in situations where you are doing something you like and can be yourself. And, don't wear too much jewelry Mr. T.

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Maybe your not looking in the right places? I agree with Luna you should get involved in more activities that you enjoy and love will find you. You could be looking too hard and not realizing your passing up good girls. Hang in there it will happen.

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Greenlantern,  maybe you are dating the same type of person over and over again. 

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A buddy of mine seemed pretty solid on what he was looking for. I thought this was good clarity to share with anyone of either sex. Here's what he said:

I want a passionate woman. Not just passsionate in bed, but passionate about life and something in life in addition to me.

I want a partner I can trust and other people trust.

I want a woman I can come home to and hear about the passions and experiences in her day and not just the same gossip or mindless complaining about the problems she had shopping or getting her nails done.

Isn't there a woman out there I can trust that has passion for life and does not complain about trivial things?

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It's all about the Universal Law of Attraction. Have you written down the qualities in a mate that to you are most important. Do you see yourself in a realationship experiencing those qualities?

Check out this website...some really great info. I can say it works. This story is about my brother.
http://www.attractloveatthespeedoflight.com/

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green lantern, I do not believe in the idea of the "right one," or even a "soul-mate" as many people seem to now be referring to their partner more and more. To me, this implies that there is only one individual on this planet with whom you will be able to form the most complete bond- emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, etc. If this were the case- what are the chances that in your lifetime you will meet that person? Are there external forces that are supposed to magically somehow bring you two together? I'm sorry, but NO. If this were the case- everyone would have that special someone- and that is certainly not the case. I believe there absolutely is someone out there for everybody- but this "someone" can actually be one of many people- one of many whom are best suited to your needs and desires- at that particular time in your life. I really don't think you need to do anything to meet "your" most suitable partner other than BE YOURSELF and do not worry about it. I guarantee you if and when you meet that person (again I want to stress her that when I say "person," I am referring to one of "many" in a large pool of potential candidates) you will instinctively know it. Its very important to understand that a major reason why relationships fail is because people change or "evolve," and the relationship does not evolve with them. It remains as it was when things were at there best and felt "natural." This is when and where the "work" is required- by both involved parties- to maintain the passion and inspiration of their connection. I'm sure you've heard of someone answering- when asked why the relationship isn't working or did not work out- "He/she just isn't the same person I met/married?" I certainly have. Good luck.

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A small offering always works for me.

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What??? Please elaborate.

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My hubby wooed me with chocolates. :)