Where are all the good girls?

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I found this text on some random website, but it does drive a good point home that I wish some of my single friends would read.

Girls are like
apples on trees. The best
ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don't want to reach for
the good ones because they are afraid
of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples
at the top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one
who's brave enough
to climb
all the way
to the top
of the tree.

borrowed from megan

Anyone out there find this to be true?

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wow! this chokes me up a bit. totally true! my friend and i are successful women and actually play down because we don't want to be more accomplished than the guys we date. She even said to me "I'm not going to pursue that because what man could ever compete with me if i had that?"   So... where are the men who will climb the tree?

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lbrocks wrote: wow! this chokes me up a bit. totally true! my friend and i are successful women and actually play down because we don't want to be more accomplished than the guys we date. She even said to me "I'm not going to pursue that because what man could ever compete with me if i had that?"   So... where are the men who will climb the tree?

This is a great pain that a lot of guys feel, and by default, many women feel it too. Men today aren't taught to be men, and as a result, grow up to be boy-men.

Of course, you don't want to "dumb" yourselves down, and why should you? You deserve a man that is your equal. No one should have to settle for less then they deserve.

There are mature men out there, you just gotta look for them.   

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"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the delusion that we are all separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha

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Just tell me this. Why in the (blank) do women go after bad boys? Is the ruined relationship worth the brief fun of being in a bar? Are the beer and the smoke and the loud noises so exciting that they are worth the emotional garbage that they generate?

Bad boys never last. Strong men, regardless of body type or ethnicity, do last.

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One reason some women are attracted to "bad boys" is because they feel they can change, mold or "rehabilitate" them into the man the woman wants or- feels they should be. Its somewhat a control issue that is rooted in the dynamics of the relationship between herself and her father growing up- which I cannot elaborate on because I'm not a psychologist.

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Whatever you say Snake!
Yeah, you have a good point, tho!
A lot of it stems from the need to be loved.
Trying to get the attention that daddy didn't
provide, etc...

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Plissken wrote: One reason some women are attracted to "bad boys" is because they feel they can change, mold or "rehabilitate" them into the man the woman wants or- feels they should be. Its somewhat a control issue that is rooted in the dynamics of the relationship between herself and her father growing up- which I cannot elaborate on because I'm not a psychologist.

No. That is not why.

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HealthNut- that is my opinion. You seem to know something about this subject that I don't. Can you please share and elaborate? What is your opinion of why some women are attracted to "bad boys?"

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It would be great to hear from some "good guys" on this topic. Guys who have been in longterm (good) relationships with women.

1. What made you climb to the top of a tree for your girl?

2. Did you ever find a rotten apple at the top?

2. How did you know it would work?

I'm just curious. I lost my fiance to an accident 4 years ago and I'm not sure why I'm not finding anyone now that I'm ready to move on. I know I'm ready emotionally, so that's not it.

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Sorry snake, but you are wrong all over the place there. Women like Bad A$$e$ from time to time. Someone who is dominant,the leader of the pack, and a rebel. These traits are an aphrodisiac. Most of the time we don't expect it will last. I guess the ones who do try to make it last are the crazy girls with daddy issues.