Can Grief Make You Sick? - The death or departure of someone we love can be traumatic. Loss hurts, and the resulting grief can be challenging. When we lose someone, we immediately feel the emotional impact. Shock, sadness, anger, anxiety, depression, and other emotions surface and can hijack us at a moment's notice. The ensuing emotional roller coaster can be unnerving and even frightening. What often...
Ungrieved losses take a toll on our hearts and deaden us to life. We think we can avoid the pain of loss if we keep busy or close our hearts. However, the losses accumulate, and we shut down from life, from one another, and from ourselves. Suppressing our grief affects our relationships and compromises our aliveness. Grief can show up in symptoms such as chronic physical ailments, overworking, addiction,...
You get divorced and people ask for a few weeks how you're doing. Your dad suddenly died and, within the month, you've received several notes from people who knew him and loved him. Your oldest child was diagnosed with autism and people who've walked that path offer guidance. You are grieving, and it will take time to heal. You don't want people to feel sorry for you. You don't expect constant attention....
People love and appreciate their pets on a number of different levels. Where one person might see a silly creature, someone else is likely to see an intelligent, beloved family member. Regardless of how much or little you were able to appreciate a friend or loved one’s pet, make sure to take them seriously if they’re -grieving the loss of a pet. Here’s why... Even if a friend or family member’s grief...
There is no way out of grief. All you can do is experience it as it arises with more or less intensity. Some people refer to this as riding the waves of grief. You cannot always anticipate when a big wave of grief will be triggered. It’s important not to fight the grief or make yourself wrong for it in any shape or form. Longing, sadness, despair, anger, emptiness, disorientation, heartache and more...
With the emergence of COVID-19, we have gone through massive changes in our world and a deep collective experience of loss. As the Coronavirus emptied our streets, closed our businesses, threatened our lives, and isolated us in our homes, we have experienced profound losses; now we struggle with what the world will be like in the days ahead. Already there are massive numbers of people dead all over...
Ah, Thanksgiving. Festive décor. Tantalizing food and drink. Family gatherings. Fun and smiles all around. Expressions of gratitude everywhere. Underneath the warm hugs and smiling faces, many of us carry wounded hearts. We’re thankful to be with those we love, but there’s also an ache inside that won’t go away. Many of us are missing someone this Thanksgiving. The holidays can be wonderful. They can...
Humans love their furry friends, and more than -9 out of 10 people- consider them family. When given the option to select one companion for a deserted island, more than 50% of U.S. adults say they would choose their pet. But of course, most pets have a much -shorter lifespan- than humans, so many of us will outlive our dearest companion. Because of this strong connection, it can be difficult to cope...
Losing a spouse is emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually devastating. Virtually every aspect of life changes with the loss of a partner. What’s more, even as life changes must still be faced, the grief can seem insurmountable. Losing a spouse is viewed as the -most stressful- of all possible losses. In order to navigate it, self-kindness is a must. As is the knowledge that this is a...
It is one of life’s biggest challenges, dealing with the feelings of loss when someone close to you - whether that be a friend or family member - passes away. It can be such an overwhelming time, and it is different for everyone, each and every person grieves in their own way. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do and how to cope with the loss and grief; you may be overcome with a number of unexpected...