Mastering Self Sabotage: 7 Secrets to Unlock Your Potential
Self-sabotage often masks itself as an enemy, but it's more like a protector, shielding us from the unknowns and fears that come with reaching our deepest desires. In this quest, we explore self-sabotage's intricacies, aiming to disarm it. Let's unveil the seven secrets to conquer self-sabotage and unlock your true potential.
1. Is it Visioned
Without a vision, people perish. Let's examine 'your' bigger picture of what you're trying to achieve specifically. When you make your vision or goal deeply meaningful and BIG, you will automatically be pulled by its vision instead of being pushed by fear, getting stuck and sidetracked by the petty little side-tracking tyrants this produces.
These are also recognized in your self-sabotaging and emotionally controlled behaviors and actions. It's akin to children not understanding the complete WHY behind what they're required to do, missing the core inspiration for doing it.
Action item: Expand and position your goal with your grander vision to maximize its power of materialization.
2. Is it Purposed
What is the true intention and purpose behind what you're trying to do? Why do you want to do this in the first place? Are you trying to please yourself, someone else, or engaging in people-pleasing behavior that muddles your authentic values of purpose? Crystal clarity about your “genuine purpose” uplifts and propels your desire for action and service to the next level of actualization, creating ultimate momentum in its achievement. Be explicit about your "purpose-driven intention" as to why you chose it initially and what you aim to gain from it, allowing you to let go, pivot, or achieve.
Action item: Honestly clarify your reason behind the purpose of Your Action, including any underlying motives, to redirect your purpose.
3. Is it Soul-Connected
How authentic, soul-centered, and connected to your core, highest, and best self is the goal you're trying to achieve, personally or professionally? When you start anything from who you authentically ARE, you break through the fog of confusion, procrastination, and resistance, ascending to a higher plateau. This process facilitates a clarification stemming from your soul-connection in tune with your truest intentions.
It evokes feelings of exuberance, belonging, confidence, and integrated action, as opposed to a state of disconnection driven by your ego's need for speedy results. This often manifests as reactivity, anxiousness, scattered thoughts, autopilot actions, and being uncentered and ungrounded.
Action item: Before doing anything, check-in with your "being" self, and get centered within it to navigate from your soul-directed-self and purpose.
4. Is it a Joyful Endeavor
Every action has its ups and downs, valleys, and rivers. To uncover the root of self-sabotage, delve into the feeling state of the task or action you're trying to avoid. What does it "feel" like? Can you shift your perspective and recognize that doing it might empower you and produce a desired result? Often, pushing through discomfort leads to a brighter outcome, leaving you with a sense of fulfillment. Your goal thrives when you're in a state of feeling good, in joyful alignment, generating exuberant connectedness, flow, value-recognition, freedom, and light-hearted inspiration.
Action item: Ask yourself if what you're doing generates an exuberant, harmonious, and confident feeling state.
5. Is it Laser Sharply Focused
The clarity of deliberate focus and action as the captain of your own ship cannot be underestimated. It's easy to get sidetracked by the ego's seduction of misfitting fears, which are not worthy of your attention or a place at the head of your vision-table, purpose, soul connection, joyful endeavor, decisiveness, and personal energy alignment. As a deliberate creator, practicing the discipline of keeping your eye on the ball is crucial.
Action item: Daily check-in with your top priorities to maintain your focus.
6. Is it Decisive
Deliberate choice is a powerful conduit to initiate action and maintain momentum, regardless of your focus area. Choices often lead to multiple small or significant decisions, creating a multiplying effect that propels you forward. This avoids getting stuck in confusion, delays, and procrastination.
Action item: After integrating the previous secrets, make decisions promptly and clarify your next choice of action.
7. Is it Energy Aligned
For ultimate alignment and the fulfillment of your desires and goals, personal energy alignment is essential. Similar to aligning your car to prevent veering off the road, aligning your personal energy is critical. Hastily taken actions that sidestep alignment can sabotage your core, not aligning with what has true heart and meaning.
Action item: Practice inner-oriented alignment to BE before you DO, creating a foundation for what you want to achieve.
In the journey to disarm self-sabotage, we've explored the hidden intricacies of our minds and hearts. We've unveiled the secrets that can lead us to a life of purpose, joy, and fulfillment. Remember, self-sabotage is not your enemy; it's a guardian of the familiar. Trust in your authentic self, and you'll discover the strength to break free from its grasp.
Daniela Bumann, a bestselling author and thought-leader, is a Swiss native, a transformative speaker, life mastery coach, and evolutionary consciousness guide. Daniela's unconventional approach empowers high achievers to break free from self-sabotage, align with purpose, and create lives of authenticity and fulfillment. Her insights, shared in her bestselling book, "High-Performance Without Pain," guide readers towards mindful habits and vibrant living. As a bestselling author and sought-after speaker and visionary based in California, she empowers individuals to break free from limiting behaviors, creating lasting growth, exuberance and fulfillment. For more information visit www.vibrantlivingnow.org.
