Give and Take (Part 1)

When we say giving, we automatically relate to giving to charities, to the people who are in need, giving gifts to friends or family members during holidays, birthdays to show that we care. It is always good to give. Giving has no strings attached. When we give someone a gift, what that person does with the gift has nothing to do with us. He or she can give to someone else or they can throw it away. Hahhhh¡K some people get really upset when they find out that the gift is being disposed. Please read on.

However, when we give someone something with a condition of not able to dispose the gift as they wish; then, it is not giving. We do something for you and you do something for us. It is an exchange. When a gift is given, it is the other person¡s choice to do whatever they want.

My mother always says ¡§I always give and give and he (my father) just take and take.¡¨ I am sure you all have heard something similar. That means there is an expectation. We give and expect something in return. If we expect something in return, we should let the person know that we want something in return. If it is ¡§giving¡¨, there is no complaint. The views of other people keep taking from us or we keep giving and giving; mean that we feel there is an imbalance.

With the holiday season coming soon, ¡§give¡¨ with all our love and free of condition and expectation.

P.S. Have to add this one in. Just read the news that the Feds is about to give over $100 billion to 10 largest banks to ease credit. But there are no conditions or any type of agreements as to how the banks have to use the money. When there are no conditions, it is a gift. Therefore, the banks can use the money however they want to. The Feds is asking them to use the money ¡§wisely¡¨ and not ¡§hording¡¨. It is just asking, not conditions for the banks. Nice ¡§gift¡¨ for the Holidays.