Like others, I waited a long time to revisit, much less provide written feedback on the devastating consequences for myself and my children that were the result of Dr Star's objectively incompetent analysis during our divorce proceedings.
Clinical testing by a 3rd party resource that showed clear indications of aberrant and dangerous Axis1 personality profiles held by my ex were, once in her hands, utterly ignored.
Opposite results of my own Axis2 profile from the same source, validated as 'reliable' and 'can be trusted' were likewise treated as if she did'nt review the external clinical information at all.
In fact, my ex's testing was so off the charts, it could not be reliably used as a diagnosis for anything other than an indication of need for deeper analysis aimed at uncovering Axis1 level syndromes (aka: the serious stuff).
Nevertheless, after complimenting me in interview saying she never heard as well-rounded a response as the one I gave her in contextualizing my son's emotional, spiritual and cognitive needs in emerging adolescence; this cynical charlatan not only advised the ex get full custody of our 2 elementary age, special needs kids - but wrote the most gallingly unprofessional assessment imaginable.
Reading like a bad soap opera narrative in a distorted and mystifyingly neutral 'he-said-she-said' template, Dr Star's "report" was devoid of professional logic, perspective or cadence. It was subsequently shown to more than one professional with excellent parallel credentials who validated my own horrified impression of it's base worthlessness.
I am deeply sorry to imagine this person may still be profiteering in place of practice while consigning other at-risk children to lives as scarred as my own kid's became - if not worse.
If it were possible to sue, I would have spent my last dime pursuing her, but the umbrella of protection a court-ordered advisory role like this provides prohibits it. And for me, the subsequent needs of my kids came first for the last 10+ years.
And so continues the rank abuse of families already suffering in a court system that does less than nothing to protect those trapped in conflict with well funded, demonstrably disturbed individuals.
As one who should know better, and is routinely relied on in an assumption of delicate expertise, Dr Star demonstrated nothing more than her cornerstone status as what I see as the worst element in all the family court proceedings in Cook Co.
Far from operating as the safety net she and others like her are morally charged to be, she - the last resort my kids had for a decent outcome - struck the final note in process that unequivocally put an end to their healthy support through an unavoidably difficult time in all out lives.
In fact, it started a long destructive path for them I will be plagued with guilt over for the failing to prevent the rest of my life.
And, seriously - SHAME on the Cook County courts system to continue to rely on this known menace to the obvious detriment of the health and wellbeing of Illinois children!
Beyond this late review, please note some hard won advice:
Only the mentally ill (or those legally bound to them) are insane enough to to end up in court here in Cook Co., IL.
If you are reading this, and faced with similar dynamics - please look seriously into collaborative or other means of separation, and avoid the money-driven adversarial court process and their evaluations like the plague they are.
Even co-parenting with a disturbed individual is better than risking your kids care to the chance they will spend the majority of their time under the control of an unbalanced parent in an all-or-nothing scenario.
by Mary Lenehan
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September 14, 2021