Posts by Margaret Rutherford

You get divorced and people ask for a few weeks how you're doing. Your dad suddenly died and, within the month, you've received several notes from people who knew him and loved him. Your oldest child was diagnosed with autism and people who've walked that path offer guidance.You are grieving, and it will take time to heal.You don't want people to feel sorry for you. You don't expect constant attention....
8/4/2023 4:00:00 AM
I often hear people who are struggling with depression say, “I need to find my way back to gratitude. I feel like I’ve got a target on my back sometimes and can’t get a break. But I know that’s in my own mind.”They’re recognizing a vital part of healing from depression – and that is finding perspective and balance. That’s what gratitude can bring to everyone, but especially someone who struggles with...
4/9/2020 7:00:00 AM
Dating is scary enough on its own. But do you fear that your choice on the latest dating site might not be the right one - that there might be someone else who is funnier, more handsome, sexier... whatever?You're afraid of missing out. FOMO as some like to call it. It's intense anxiety that you're missing the action, your life isn't as great as someone else's, or you're not in-the-know about what's...
7/25/2018 7:00:00 AM
When I hear the term "unconditional love," I think of the incredible moment my son was born.Yet a parent's love can be virtually destroyed.Some of the most difficult moments I've witnessed as a therapist, when there wasn't an actual death, is when a parent is agonizing over a grown child whose destructiveness and emotional manipulation are squeezing out the last drops of unconditional love that parent...
5/5/2018 7:00:00 AM