Lately I have been very negative and it is profoundly effecting my life. I believe the negative people have added stress, die younger, are a burden to those around them and find no joy in this lifetime. The big question is how do you get past that fear which makes you negative and start focusing on the positive. Negativity is a self defense mechanism so that we don't get disappointed or hurt by failed expectations. Having expectations, in my opinion is the kiss of death, because most people are infallible and without faith in a higher power that I am in the right place at the right time and that my uncomfortable feelings serve a purpose and will pass I'd continue to stay stuck although I often find that I revert to my comfort zone of negativity because it seems safe to me and I'm trying to break out of that rut because it hasn't served me well. I know why I'm negative 75% of the time because me parent's were very harsh and negative and naysayer's although that's no excuse because it's a copout. We are in charge of our own attitude's and attitude can make or break a company a person or even a church and definitely a country.
The truth of the matter is that we can't live off of our past mistakes or misperceptionsn of how we got to be where we are now, they say that if we don't learn from our past we are destined to repeat it, I say otherwise, if we continue to base everything from past experiences we are only fooling ourselves, what's done is done and what will be will be. Acceptance has a lot to be said for it. Faith has power and believing that even if you've stepped out of your comfort zone that something great will come of it means that it probably will.
I remind myself lately when I'm blaming other's for my shitty attitude what Eleanore Roosevelt once said which is "Nobody can give you the permission to feel bad about yourself without you agreeing to them" or something to that extent. We are what we think, we are what we think, we are what we think and our futures are based upon what we think now and not what we have been like in the past. Take this from a negative, self-sabatoging person who is changing. We have the power to change our lives.
The Roosevelt quote was "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." It is true. And I think it is a huge step in the right direction for you to confront yourself and commit to overcoming the obstacles that cause you to feel so negative.
Eleanor Roosevelt also said "Happiness is not a goal. It is a by-product." The tagline of Wellness.com is "The pursuit of health and happiness." The pursuit lies in what you do every day, every hour, to make a contribution. You are so right in that the past is meaningless. You do have the power to change your life, and to affect the lives of others. This is a great place to track your progress, to be accountable to others until you trust yourself to be accountable to yourself. Define some meaningful pursuits and keep us posted.
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