100% of Women Have Been Sexually Abused

Maybe you've heard the staggering statistic that 3 out of every 5 women have been sexually abused. Although it's very difficult to try and comprehend that level of abuse, what if I told you that in actuality, 100% of women have been sexually abused?

I assume you would look at me with confusion. However, after my explanation I'll bet that it will make much more sense.

Usually when we think of sexual abuse we envision someone doing something physical to another, something that the other person is completely against. Today, I'm hopefully going to expand your awareness to some of the different types of sexual abuse that are currently taking place within our society which most people don't consider abuse.

There's a saying that you must first admit to an addiction in order to overcome it. This saying is seeking to bring awareness to the issue so that it can be addressed. Let's now examine two different forms of sexual abuse that have, on some level, negatively affected all women in our society - this will allow us to begin to heal and evolve as people.

• Media: If I was in a relationship with a girl and constantly told her that her breasts and butt weren't big enough or perky enough, would that be sexual abuse? What if I constantly told her that she was fat and unattractive? How about if I told her that once she reached a certain age she might not have any sexual appeal to me?

If we feel uncomfortable within our own bodies it's difficult to reach deep states of sexual connection unless we are able to temporarily bypass the awareness of having a body. I have never met a girl who hasn't, at one point in time, felt insecure with her body. The attractiveness that a woman feels about herself is usually correlated to her ability to connect sexually.

It's my understanding that if I were to constantly say things to my girl that would negatively affect the way she feels about her body and impede her sexual life, that would be sexual abuse.

Although it seems like our society has accepted the media's projection of the ideal woman to be this perfect, young object who often times has a below healthy body-fat percentage, it is actually sexual abuse. Especially when you factor in all the new trends, such as the genetically freakish butt and the balloon lips that are creating the new breast implant trends of plastic surgery.

• Porn: If you are a woman reading this you might say, “Hang on, I don't watch porn.” Even if  you are a woman that doesn't watch porn, it has still very likely affected you. A lot of men under the age of 40 developed their sexual minds through porn. We were misinformed as to what most women like.

We were programmed to believe that women only like abnormally large penises that would actually hurt the average female. The stimulation of our dopamine fades as it does with most drugs, and we turned to more risqué viewing such as threesomes and even videos of wives cheating.

Many have programmed their minds on a subconscious level to believe that they aren't good enough and that all people cheat. We were taught that sex doesn't include affection and connection and that a woman is no more than a sexual object.

This is one of the reasons that you, as a woman, have experienced men projecting their insecurities onto you and that during sex you have sometimes felt like no more than a sex object. If you are interacting with men sexually, and men were taught not to listen to you, to degrade you, and that you aren't worthy of anything more than their climax, then that is a form of sexual abuse.

Whether you agree with me or not, I invite you to look a little deeper into this idea and create some conversations around it. In the least, it will create unique dialogue.