2. The next step is to add flavor to the words and this can take place over a quiet meal, or before the two of you go to bed (no sex yet). Example: "I want to make you feel good honey," "I want to hold you and kiss you," I want to please you," "I want to put my mouth on your body and give you pleasure by kissing you all over," "I want to feel you and hear you as we make love," or depending on your wife, you can be a little more graphic! Some women like that too!